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Feb 5, 2009
Cancer Update - John Hopkins
Subject: CANCER UPDATES FROM JOHN HOPKINS AFTER YEARS OF TELLING PEOPLE CHEMOTHERAPY IS THE ONLY WAY TO TRY AND ELIMINATE CANCER, JOHN HOPKINS IS FINALLY STARTING TO TELL YOU THERE IS AN ALTERNATIVE WAY
Cancer Update from John Hopkins
1. Every person has cancer cells in the body. These cancer cells do not show up in the standard Tests until they have multiplied to a few billion. When doctors tell cancer patients that there are no more cancer cells in their bodies after treatment, it just means the tests are unable to detect the cancer cells because they have not reached the detectable size.
2. Cancer cells occur between 6 to more than 10 times in a
person's lifetime
3. When the person's immune system is strong the cancer cells will be destroyed and prevented From multiplying and forming tumors.
4. When a person has cancer it indicates the person has multiple nutritional deficiencies. These Could be due to genetic, environmental, food and lifestyle
factors.
5. To overcome the multiple nutritional deficiencies, changing diet and including supplements will strengthen the immune system.
6. Chemotherapy involves poisoning the rapidly-growing cancer cells and also destroys rapidly-growing healthy cells in the bone marrow, gastro-intestinal tract etc, and can cause organ damage, like liver, kidneys, heart, lungs etc.
7. Radiation while destroying cancer cells also burns, scars and damages healthy cells, tissues and organs.
8. Initial treatment with chemotherapy and radiation will often reduce tumor size. However prolonged use of chemotherapy and radiation do not result in more tumor
destruction.
9 When the body has too much toxic burden from chemotherapy and radiation the immune system is either compromised or destroyed, hence the person can succumb to various kinds of infections and complications.
10. Chemotherapy and radiation can cause cancer cells to mutate and become resistant and difficult to destroy. Surgery can also cause cancer cells to spread to other sites.
11. An effective way to battle cancer is to starve the cancer cells by not feeding it with the foods it needs to multiply.
CANCER CELLS FEED ON:
A. Sugar is a cancer-feeder. By cutting off sugar it cuts off one important food supply to the cancer cells. Sugar substitutes like NutraSweet, Equal,Spoonful, etc are
made with Aspartame and it is harmful. A better natural substitute would be Manuka honey or molasses but only in very small amounts. Table salt has a chemical added to make it white in color . Better alternative is Bragg's aminos or sea salt.
B. Milk causes the body to produce mucus, especially in the gastro-intestinal tract. Cancer feeds on mucus. By cutting off milk and substituting with unsweetened soya milk cancer cells are being starved.
C. Cancer cells thrive in an acid environment. A meat-based diet is acidic and it is best to eat fish, and a little chicken rather than beef or pork. Meat also contains livestock antibiotics, growth hormones and parasites, which are all harmful, especially to people with cancer.
D. A diet made of 80% fresh vegetables and juice, whole grains,seeds, nuts and a little fruits help put the body into an alkaline environment.About 20% can be from
cooked food including beans. Fresh vegetable juices provide live enzymes that are easily absorbed and reach down to cellular levels within 15 minutes to nourish and enhance growth of healthy cells. To obtain live enzymes for building healthy cells try and drink fresh vegetable juice (most vegetables including bean sprouts)and eat some raw vegetables 2 or 3 times a day. Enzymes are destroyed at Temperatures of 104 degrees F (40 degrees C).
E. Avoid coffee, tea, and chocolate, which have high caffeine.Green tea is a better alternative and has cancer-fighting properties. Water-best to drink purified water, or filtered, to avoid known toxins and heavy metals in tap water. Distilled water is acidic, avoid it.
12. Meat protein is difficult to digest and requires a lot of digestive enzymes. Undigested meat remaining in the intestines become putrified and leads to more toxic
buildup.
13. Cancer cell walls have a tough protein covering. By refraining from or eating less meat it frees more enzymes to attack the protein walls of cancer cells and allows the body's killer cells to destroy the cancer cells.
14. Some supplements build up the immune system (IP6,Flor-ssence,Essiac, anti-oxidants, vitamins, minerals, EFAs etc.) to enable the body's own killer cells to destroy
cancer cells. Other supplements like vitamin E are known to cause apoptosis, or programmed cell death, the body's normal method of disposing of damaged, unwanted, or unneeded cells.
15. Cancer is a disease of the mind, body, and spirit. A proactive and positive spirit will help the cancer warrior be a survivor. Anger, unforgiveness and bitterness put the
body into a stressful and acidic environment. Learn to have a loving and forgiving
spirit. Learn to relax and enjoy life.
16. Cancer cells cannot thrive in an oxygenated environment. Exercising daily, and deep breathing help to get more oxygen down to the cellular level. Oxygen therapy is another means employed to destroy cancer cells.
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CANCER UPDATE FROM JOHN HOPKINS HOSPITAL , U S - PLEASE READ
1. No plastic containers in micro.
2. No water bottles in freezer.
3. No plastic wrap in microwave.
Johns Hopkins has recently sent this out in its newsletters. This information is being circulated at Walter Reed Army Medical Center as well.Dioxin chemicals causes cancer, especially breast cancer. Dioxins are highly poisonous to the cells of our bodies.Don't freeze your plastic bottles with water in them as this releases dioxins from the plastic.
Recently, Dr. Edward Fujimoto,Wellness Program Manager at Castle Hospital , was on a TV program to explain this health hazard. He talked about dioxins and how bad they are for us.. He said that we should not be heating our food in the microwave using plastic containers. This especially applies to foods that contain fat. He said that the combination of fat, high heat, and plastics releases dioxin into the food and ultimately into the cells of the body. Instead, he recommends using glass, such as Corning Ware, Pyrex or ceramic containers for heating food. You get the same results, only without the dioxin. So such things as TV dinners, instant ramen and soups, etc., should be removed from the container and heated in something else. Paper isn't bad but you don't know what is in the paper. It's just safer to use tempered glass, Corning
Ware, etc. He reminded us that a while ago some of the fast food restaurants moved away from the foam containers to paper. The dioxin problem is one of the reasons.
Also, he pointed out that plastic wrap, such as Saran, isjust as dangerous when placed over foods to be cooked in the microwave. As the food is nuked, the high heat causes poisonous toxins to actually melt out of the plastic wrap and drip into the food. Cover food with a paper towel instead.
Cancer Update from John Hopkins
1. Every person has cancer cells in the body. These cancer cells do not show up in the standard Tests until they have multiplied to a few billion. When doctors tell cancer patients that there are no more cancer cells in their bodies after treatment, it just means the tests are unable to detect the cancer cells because they have not reached the detectable size.
2. Cancer cells occur between 6 to more than 10 times in a
person's lifetime
3. When the person's immune system is strong the cancer cells will be destroyed and prevented From multiplying and forming tumors.
4. When a person has cancer it indicates the person has multiple nutritional deficiencies. These Could be due to genetic, environmental, food and lifestyle
factors.
5. To overcome the multiple nutritional deficiencies, changing diet and including supplements will strengthen the immune system.
6. Chemotherapy involves poisoning the rapidly-growing cancer cells and also destroys rapidly-growing healthy cells in the bone marrow, gastro-intestinal tract etc, and can cause organ damage, like liver, kidneys, heart, lungs etc.
7. Radiation while destroying cancer cells also burns, scars and damages healthy cells, tissues and organs.
8. Initial treatment with chemotherapy and radiation will often reduce tumor size. However prolonged use of chemotherapy and radiation do not result in more tumor
destruction.
9 When the body has too much toxic burden from chemotherapy and radiation the immune system is either compromised or destroyed, hence the person can succumb to various kinds of infections and complications.
10. Chemotherapy and radiation can cause cancer cells to mutate and become resistant and difficult to destroy. Surgery can also cause cancer cells to spread to other sites.
11. An effective way to battle cancer is to starve the cancer cells by not feeding it with the foods it needs to multiply.
CANCER CELLS FEED ON:
A. Sugar is a cancer-feeder. By cutting off sugar it cuts off one important food supply to the cancer cells. Sugar substitutes like NutraSweet, Equal,Spoonful, etc are
made with Aspartame and it is harmful. A better natural substitute would be Manuka honey or molasses but only in very small amounts. Table salt has a chemical added to make it white in color . Better alternative is Bragg's aminos or sea salt.
B. Milk causes the body to produce mucus, especially in the gastro-intestinal tract. Cancer feeds on mucus. By cutting off milk and substituting with unsweetened soya milk cancer cells are being starved.
C. Cancer cells thrive in an acid environment. A meat-based diet is acidic and it is best to eat fish, and a little chicken rather than beef or pork. Meat also contains livestock antibiotics, growth hormones and parasites, which are all harmful, especially to people with cancer.
D. A diet made of 80% fresh vegetables and juice, whole grains,seeds, nuts and a little fruits help put the body into an alkaline environment.About 20% can be from
cooked food including beans. Fresh vegetable juices provide live enzymes that are easily absorbed and reach down to cellular levels within 15 minutes to nourish and enhance growth of healthy cells. To obtain live enzymes for building healthy cells try and drink fresh vegetable juice (most vegetables including bean sprouts)and eat some raw vegetables 2 or 3 times a day. Enzymes are destroyed at Temperatures of 104 degrees F (40 degrees C).
E. Avoid coffee, tea, and chocolate, which have high caffeine.Green tea is a better alternative and has cancer-fighting properties. Water-best to drink purified water, or filtered, to avoid known toxins and heavy metals in tap water. Distilled water is acidic, avoid it.
12. Meat protein is difficult to digest and requires a lot of digestive enzymes. Undigested meat remaining in the intestines become putrified and leads to more toxic
buildup.
13. Cancer cell walls have a tough protein covering. By refraining from or eating less meat it frees more enzymes to attack the protein walls of cancer cells and allows the body's killer cells to destroy the cancer cells.
14. Some supplements build up the immune system (IP6,Flor-ssence,Essiac, anti-oxidants, vitamins, minerals, EFAs etc.) to enable the body's own killer cells to destroy
cancer cells. Other supplements like vitamin E are known to cause apoptosis, or programmed cell death, the body's normal method of disposing of damaged, unwanted, or unneeded cells.
15. Cancer is a disease of the mind, body, and spirit. A proactive and positive spirit will help the cancer warrior be a survivor. Anger, unforgiveness and bitterness put the
body into a stressful and acidic environment. Learn to have a loving and forgiving
spirit. Learn to relax and enjoy life.
16. Cancer cells cannot thrive in an oxygenated environment. Exercising daily, and deep breathing help to get more oxygen down to the cellular level. Oxygen therapy is another means employed to destroy cancer cells.
(PLEASE FORWARD IT TO PEOPLE YOU CARE ABOUT)
CANCER UPDATE FROM JOHN HOPKINS HOSPITAL , U S - PLEASE READ
1. No plastic containers in micro.
2. No water bottles in freezer.
3. No plastic wrap in microwave.
Johns Hopkins has recently sent this out in its newsletters. This information is being circulated at Walter Reed Army Medical Center as well.Dioxin chemicals causes cancer, especially breast cancer. Dioxins are highly poisonous to the cells of our bodies.Don't freeze your plastic bottles with water in them as this releases dioxins from the plastic.
Recently, Dr. Edward Fujimoto,Wellness Program Manager at Castle Hospital , was on a TV program to explain this health hazard. He talked about dioxins and how bad they are for us.. He said that we should not be heating our food in the microwave using plastic containers. This especially applies to foods that contain fat. He said that the combination of fat, high heat, and plastics releases dioxin into the food and ultimately into the cells of the body. Instead, he recommends using glass, such as Corning Ware, Pyrex or ceramic containers for heating food. You get the same results, only without the dioxin. So such things as TV dinners, instant ramen and soups, etc., should be removed from the container and heated in something else. Paper isn't bad but you don't know what is in the paper. It's just safer to use tempered glass, Corning
Ware, etc. He reminded us that a while ago some of the fast food restaurants moved away from the foam containers to paper. The dioxin problem is one of the reasons.
Also, he pointed out that plastic wrap, such as Saran, isjust as dangerous when placed over foods to be cooked in the microwave. As the food is nuked, the high heat causes poisonous toxins to actually melt out of the plastic wrap and drip into the food. Cover food with a paper towel instead.
Mighty Patola
In Tijuana, Mexico police officers suspected of conspiring with drug traffickers had their guns confiscated. Fearing for their lives they stopped patrolling, but only for a time. Some returned to work using sling shots as their protection. Eventually, after three weeks they were re-issued their more effective weapons.
In the Philippines imagine if we took away our police officers' weapons upon learning that they are colluding with drug traffickers, do we now call them "Police Patola"? That was the first term that came to mind when I read this story. I was giggling & eventually broke into laughter as I imagined our local police running after criminals & waving patola(sponge gourd) as they command them to: Stop in the name of the mighty Patola & desist from committing any more felony. Just think a 'patola' (sponge gourd) used as "loofa" when dried to gently scrape dead skin cells from our bodies used as a weapon! If the law is after me & a 'patola' is used to confront my criminality, I don't know if I should laugh, get confused or ran even faster because the 'patola' would not hit any vital parts in my body anyway, so I can definitely go my merry way. If caught I wonder would they give me the 'patola' to use as an ingredient for my daily food in jail or I am in prison because not only will I have to pay for my crimes, but make a livelihood for the police by drying up 'patolas' and supplying them all over the nation?
Such a funny thought! If only we can use a more effective weapons than guns, specially when the miscreants all over the country have more sophisticated armada of weapons of their own.
In the Philippines imagine if we took away our police officers' weapons upon learning that they are colluding with drug traffickers, do we now call them "Police Patola"? That was the first term that came to mind when I read this story. I was giggling & eventually broke into laughter as I imagined our local police running after criminals & waving patola(sponge gourd) as they command them to: Stop in the name of the mighty Patola & desist from committing any more felony. Just think a 'patola' (sponge gourd) used as "loofa" when dried to gently scrape dead skin cells from our bodies used as a weapon! If the law is after me & a 'patola' is used to confront my criminality, I don't know if I should laugh, get confused or ran even faster because the 'patola' would not hit any vital parts in my body anyway, so I can definitely go my merry way. If caught I wonder would they give me the 'patola' to use as an ingredient for my daily food in jail or I am in prison because not only will I have to pay for my crimes, but make a livelihood for the police by drying up 'patolas' and supplying them all over the nation?
Such a funny thought! If only we can use a more effective weapons than guns, specially when the miscreants all over the country have more sophisticated armada of weapons of their own.
Feb 1, 2009
more excerpts from "Our Daily Bread"
Last month from "Our Daily Bread" there were two separate stories which yielded one lesson for me. If you read it just like me you would probably remember metaphors like comparing a Bison's neck w/c is designed to look down as it eats to a person who "focuses on the details"; A Giraffe's long sleek neck w/c always tends to look up is compared to a person who can see "the bigger picture". Another story is about the excitement of a British couple in welcoming their child whom they longed for after many years of marriage, & called for a prayer of wisdom after they learned that the child has down syndrome. The man when mocked "So this was the child given to you!" replied "I am glad the Lord has given this child to me instead of you!" gave a UNIQUE response. That's the lesson I learned! We are all made unique, one of a kind, fashioned by God to be part of a whole. Each though born different is valued & important in God's eyes and so should they be in others eyes.
But that does not happen that way most of the time, doesn't it. Because as we are all dissimilar like the Bison & the Giraffe we look at people & situations differently, too. So what should we do? When it's so hard to readily accept people when they are stereotyped or labeled in a certain way. Do we have to wait to be in their shoes & be them to be able to understand what they are going through? A little patience, a short conversation, a little time to get to know them might help us gradually accept that they exist & they have as much right to live & be here just like you do.
But that does not happen that way most of the time, doesn't it. Because as we are all dissimilar like the Bison & the Giraffe we look at people & situations differently, too. So what should we do? When it's so hard to readily accept people when they are stereotyped or labeled in a certain way. Do we have to wait to be in their shoes & be them to be able to understand what they are going through? A little patience, a short conversation, a little time to get to know them might help us gradually accept that they exist & they have as much right to live & be here just like you do.
V-Day HeyDay!
It's February, the month of love, lover's delight moments, cities are literally painted bright red because most people wear red, gifts are better in red, decorations should be red, too. Only in latter years did I encounter a myriad of lively colors apart from red. On one occasion as popularized by a shampoo, black was in fashion for this occasion. It's just a day in a year that sends a sensual kind of excitement & adventure to both young & old; as it evokes a promise of wild fantasies coming to life, wishes of a variety of "love" themes celebrated,a day & mostly night affair obviously reveled for the 'ton' to see. Not only are the 5 Star restaurants to the No Star are filled up, Drive-ins have been booked in advance,too. Fast food & Drive thru's not just in malls enjoy their fair share of merriment of the V-Day contagion. I went thru my friendster, facebook, multiply, email lists & knew who of my friends will mark this occasion as important, important but not necessary, important but too busy, have to prepare & so forth, ahahahhahahahaha, forgot the grid's name so had to enumerate instead.It's just sad that not everyone will get a piece of the action of the V-Day glamour. Didn't really gave a lot of thought to where we will celebrate Valentine's, only, this young man whom I met in one of the bazaars I joined several years back gave me this idea on what to write on my page.
Another day in the Life of Penny, February 2009 entry:
That was the year I decided to start up on a small earnventure. My sisters & I met a lot of interesting friends & villains that time. One of them is a robust & happy guy, who was also soooooooooo in love. We were celebrating Christmas Season & he is already thinking of Valentine's. As we got to know him, we learned that joining the bazaar was not his brilliant idea. Apparently, among his siblings (all male) he was the only one without a stable job. So, his mother lent him a few bucks & also supervised the preparation & cooking of all the food he exhibited every week. His stall has the most hirelings; from them we gleaned that his mother encouraged him to move his butt off the couch, to try anything he sets his mind into to help him refrain from getting drunk & avoid being branded a worthless bum at 25. He was a lucky fellow. He had lots of help from his friends who supplied him with desserts & local delicacies, all of them gave him the best & lowest price for their goods. He was is one person who is overly friendly with the ladies to the extent that he related his life story to this particular attractive girl, who's a rumormonger,known to all as the "queen of gossip". From her I gathered that he told her the reason he did all these was because he loves his girlfriend very much & he wants to let her know that he is "good at something". Sound enough reason isn't it? What's not letting well with me were a number of puzzling observations about his real relationship with his so-called girlfriend. His commitment to succeed was also in
question. Starting off on your own, being seen three (3) out of eight (8) days during the bazaar is bizarre. His excuse, he slept late because he had to wait for his girlfriend to get off work.Unknown to him we were already told that that night he also went out on a drinking spree with his friends, till the wee hours of morning.We finally got to meet the girl that month, he introduced her as his friend. I would have slapped him there & then saying that on my face & I were his girl (I'm not that brutal, just feel like pouncing him that time). Peculiar thing is normally girlfriends would raise an eyebrow & huff & puff not being introduced as the girlfriend. This girl NR - NO Reaction. She went straight to my stall & started choosing her gift packs. We all noticed that he was uneasy & very vigilant at the girl's every move. In the course of our event when he is around he & my male cousins would talk about their girlfriends as he checks out every attractive females in church. My cousin always tells me that it's amazing how he notices all those women, when he is facing the entrance most of the time instead of him. He opens his stall later than usual & was the first to leave at at night. If he aims to be a magnate he will not come close to being a tycoon associate. We spoke to him of our interest to make him one of our suppliers, not once but thrice did he fail to live up to his commitment. Disappointment, turned to disgust when he told me that he was trying to do well in his job, one he found few months after the exhibits & patching up with his girl. Okay he knows what prioritizing means in a sense. In between my sisters closer to his age told me that he beleaguers them with "cupid questions". Such as "How do you know if she really loves you? Will you go out w/me for a drink so I can talk to you about my relationship? I'm sad because she won't talk to me, what did I do wrong? Should I call her?" Give me a break please! After letting me in on this revelation my sister totally ignored his messages. That's when I started receiving his messages & asking me if my sister changed her number. He also asked if he can come by to say "Hi". Thinking nothing about it, casually told him he is welcome
here anytime. We even invited him in goodwill to some of our parties. No Show.
I should have filtered my mass messages when I sent my "How are You" greetings. HE
took that as an opportunity to let me know that he's sad. Out of curiosity, though I
already have an idea I asked why. He said that they broke up last month (December
2008). I wanted to say that's good, move on, but, restrained myself & replied that life has it's up's & down's, so sad to know about what happened (Liar!). Nothing else happened after. Two nights ago, to my surprise he showed up on our doorsteps. He looked nowhere near that dashing fellow we met several years past. Looked more like an elderly drunk skelly in fact. I was too scared to let him in, so I made up an excuse. Even my mom didn't want to let him in. I think my mother saw his sunken, sharp red eyes & had to forgo with being hospitable this one time. Unfortunately, that did not stop him from narrating his heart-breaking story.
Read on: He said their break up was triggered by a "boy's nite out party" where he was a reluctant rejoinder (ironic isn't it). He went along with his friends to avoid any misunderstanding, to preserve their friendship & relive old times. At the party their group saw this girl, whom they all want to meet. He said no one had the courage to come up to this female, so he was tasked to befriend her & introduce her
to the group. He refused at first & told them that his girl will be furious once she
learns he is instrumental in bringing in a girl to an all male group. He said they were deaf to his protests & finally did what he was told. One of the guys in that party with was a neighbor, who he later revealed was a disco fanatic, a ravager of women & one who uses "date drugs" on an unknowing victim (Yikes! Info given to bad young girls who loves to sneak out at night). A week after the party his girlfriend tried to wheedle information about the party by relaying a rumor she heard about the girl. He was astounded at how detailed she described the events. He was more flabbergasted the same day when he saw that neighbor(one he suspected who betrayed the brotherhood) picking up his girlfriend from work. Strange thing is he denied what happened at the party, because all the boys agreed that whatever transpired at the party will be their little secret. I'll give him credit for that,honouring the packs agreement. What's not right is allowing his girlfriend to take a ride with that neighbor, even if he is hurting to the high heavens. Literally ignored & was told by his girl when he confronted her "Why don't you ask him why he comes to give me a ride from work? Hmmmmm, if they were in a serious relationship then shouldn't
this girl be pacifying him instead of pushing him away, as well as laying the ground rules of loyalty in their relationship? I recalled him telling me that this man works in Subic Bay. He considers this odd & mind boggling. Is it odd because the
guy beats him to picking up his girlfriend. Or because he can't accept the fact that he moved mountains from Subic to Makati to show up on time? He tried all his might to warn, re warn & short of creating huge protest queue cards to let the girl know how vile this man's plans are for her. Things got even more complicated after they broke up, as he was accused of stalking the girl. Which is right on the money! Obviously, she would think he is harassing her as he dogs her too much, after breaking up. I told him that his purpose is noble, because all he wants to do is protect her & let her know how vicious this man is, told him that he has done his part well. He is just creating a bigger rift between them by looking out for her like a thief in the night. I realized then what's really eating him. He shyly told me that he is this girl's first boyfriend, first kiss & first lover. He asked me "I
was the first, does that not mean anything to her at all?" Obviously NO! Because the girl was the first who moved away & asked him for space. And when a woman asks
for space it's a sure sign of a falling out. He also added that they did not just did it once.Of course, silly, I was not born yesterday to not know how often it calls to the young & the restless. In fairness I was not a meany that night. Just told him point blank: "Women who fall out of love do not cry over lost virginity, you being her first does not mean that she can't move on with her life." (He may not be that great in bed, maybe that's why she wants space & wants to move on to wilder pastures)
He does not want to give up on her or rather not give up on her being his.He asked
me ; "What's wrong with me warning her about that man,he is going to make he a sex
machine, I care for her, I just want to talk to her again, she lied about her mom asking her to avoid me, why did she lie, what did I do wrong?" He added: "It will make me feel better if I can talk to her mom, about what happened between us. Do you think I should talk to her mom?" I told him again that you've done a lot already to show her you care & because of that your concern is misconstrued as a nuisance. I don't know why she lied to you, I cannot speak for her. Will it make a difference if you talk to her mom & let her know about your sexual misadventures I mean overtures?" 9How d hell does he know that he will use her as a sex machine, did he?) I can see that his mind is already made up. "I just want this chip off my shoulders, I will tell her all that's what happened to us & I will let go." Her mom likes me. She did not ask her to avoid me, I asked her mom personally. What if we get back together should I accept her?" Por Bida Hijo your so callous! I asked him a question in retort. Will you be willing to live with that fact that she lied to you? If she has already slept with this guy will you live with the memory of her being touched by another man? Will her mom liking you make her love you back? No response. I had to go in because by then my bladder was so full, so I made my grand exit by telling him that he has to go home, because it's getting late & that I will close shop soon. Politely told him to keep me posted on how he is every now & then.
Believe me his story, our conversation was longer than this. With the amount of
information I got from him & our memories of this young man I will be on my way to
making a telenovela, albeit not an original one but informative & eye opening for sure. I couldn't forget this encounter. It brought back all those things we knew about him & I can't help but wonder if he is not different from that guy he warned this girl about. Thought of the possible reasons why the girl gave him up, why when he is rich, dashing & he belongs to a respectable family; He is also one who indulges in drink, loves to party & he has not come close to his plans of being a mogul of riches since last he told us about it. It's sad to know that he is broken- hearted as Valentine's Day approaches. His Love story is one of those tragic sagas of love & life. One revelers during V-day would not like to hear. One thing is for sure he now belongs to the "Lonely Hearts & Empty Beds Club" come Valentine's. I would love to have to give him more insights but opted to keep my opinions to myself, because with him hurting that much even if he sought my advice I told him that the choice is still his. Once he makes up his mind he better not regret his actions, all he has to do is accept the consequences. Whoa! This is a lengthy entry. Till my next chikadventures.
Another day in the Life of Penny, February 2009 entry:
That was the year I decided to start up on a small earnventure. My sisters & I met a lot of interesting friends & villains that time. One of them is a robust & happy guy, who was also soooooooooo in love. We were celebrating Christmas Season & he is already thinking of Valentine's. As we got to know him, we learned that joining the bazaar was not his brilliant idea. Apparently, among his siblings (all male) he was the only one without a stable job. So, his mother lent him a few bucks & also supervised the preparation & cooking of all the food he exhibited every week. His stall has the most hirelings; from them we gleaned that his mother encouraged him to move his butt off the couch, to try anything he sets his mind into to help him refrain from getting drunk & avoid being branded a worthless bum at 25. He was a lucky fellow. He had lots of help from his friends who supplied him with desserts & local delicacies, all of them gave him the best & lowest price for their goods. He was is one person who is overly friendly with the ladies to the extent that he related his life story to this particular attractive girl, who's a rumormonger,known to all as the "queen of gossip". From her I gathered that he told her the reason he did all these was because he loves his girlfriend very much & he wants to let her know that he is "good at something". Sound enough reason isn't it? What's not letting well with me were a number of puzzling observations about his real relationship with his so-called girlfriend. His commitment to succeed was also in
question. Starting off on your own, being seen three (3) out of eight (8) days during the bazaar is bizarre. His excuse, he slept late because he had to wait for his girlfriend to get off work.Unknown to him we were already told that that night he also went out on a drinking spree with his friends, till the wee hours of morning.We finally got to meet the girl that month, he introduced her as his friend. I would have slapped him there & then saying that on my face & I were his girl (I'm not that brutal, just feel like pouncing him that time). Peculiar thing is normally girlfriends would raise an eyebrow & huff & puff not being introduced as the girlfriend. This girl NR - NO Reaction. She went straight to my stall & started choosing her gift packs. We all noticed that he was uneasy & very vigilant at the girl's every move. In the course of our event when he is around he & my male cousins would talk about their girlfriends as he checks out every attractive females in church. My cousin always tells me that it's amazing how he notices all those women, when he is facing the entrance most of the time instead of him. He opens his stall later than usual & was the first to leave at at night. If he aims to be a magnate he will not come close to being a tycoon associate. We spoke to him of our interest to make him one of our suppliers, not once but thrice did he fail to live up to his commitment. Disappointment, turned to disgust when he told me that he was trying to do well in his job, one he found few months after the exhibits & patching up with his girl. Okay he knows what prioritizing means in a sense. In between my sisters closer to his age told me that he beleaguers them with "cupid questions". Such as "How do you know if she really loves you? Will you go out w/me for a drink so I can talk to you about my relationship? I'm sad because she won't talk to me, what did I do wrong? Should I call her?" Give me a break please! After letting me in on this revelation my sister totally ignored his messages. That's when I started receiving his messages & asking me if my sister changed her number. He also asked if he can come by to say "Hi". Thinking nothing about it, casually told him he is welcome
here anytime. We even invited him in goodwill to some of our parties. No Show.
I should have filtered my mass messages when I sent my "How are You" greetings. HE
took that as an opportunity to let me know that he's sad. Out of curiosity, though I
already have an idea I asked why. He said that they broke up last month (December
2008). I wanted to say that's good, move on, but, restrained myself & replied that life has it's up's & down's, so sad to know about what happened (Liar!). Nothing else happened after. Two nights ago, to my surprise he showed up on our doorsteps. He looked nowhere near that dashing fellow we met several years past. Looked more like an elderly drunk skelly in fact. I was too scared to let him in, so I made up an excuse. Even my mom didn't want to let him in. I think my mother saw his sunken, sharp red eyes & had to forgo with being hospitable this one time. Unfortunately, that did not stop him from narrating his heart-breaking story.
Read on: He said their break up was triggered by a "boy's nite out party" where he was a reluctant rejoinder (ironic isn't it). He went along with his friends to avoid any misunderstanding, to preserve their friendship & relive old times. At the party their group saw this girl, whom they all want to meet. He said no one had the courage to come up to this female, so he was tasked to befriend her & introduce her
to the group. He refused at first & told them that his girl will be furious once she
learns he is instrumental in bringing in a girl to an all male group. He said they were deaf to his protests & finally did what he was told. One of the guys in that party with was a neighbor, who he later revealed was a disco fanatic, a ravager of women & one who uses "date drugs" on an unknowing victim (Yikes! Info given to bad young girls who loves to sneak out at night). A week after the party his girlfriend tried to wheedle information about the party by relaying a rumor she heard about the girl. He was astounded at how detailed she described the events. He was more flabbergasted the same day when he saw that neighbor(one he suspected who betrayed the brotherhood) picking up his girlfriend from work. Strange thing is he denied what happened at the party, because all the boys agreed that whatever transpired at the party will be their little secret. I'll give him credit for that,honouring the packs agreement. What's not right is allowing his girlfriend to take a ride with that neighbor, even if he is hurting to the high heavens. Literally ignored & was told by his girl when he confronted her "Why don't you ask him why he comes to give me a ride from work? Hmmmmm, if they were in a serious relationship then shouldn't
this girl be pacifying him instead of pushing him away, as well as laying the ground rules of loyalty in their relationship? I recalled him telling me that this man works in Subic Bay. He considers this odd & mind boggling. Is it odd because the
guy beats him to picking up his girlfriend. Or because he can't accept the fact that he moved mountains from Subic to Makati to show up on time? He tried all his might to warn, re warn & short of creating huge protest queue cards to let the girl know how vile this man's plans are for her. Things got even more complicated after they broke up, as he was accused of stalking the girl. Which is right on the money! Obviously, she would think he is harassing her as he dogs her too much, after breaking up. I told him that his purpose is noble, because all he wants to do is protect her & let her know how vicious this man is, told him that he has done his part well. He is just creating a bigger rift between them by looking out for her like a thief in the night. I realized then what's really eating him. He shyly told me that he is this girl's first boyfriend, first kiss & first lover. He asked me "I
was the first, does that not mean anything to her at all?" Obviously NO! Because the girl was the first who moved away & asked him for space. And when a woman asks
for space it's a sure sign of a falling out. He also added that they did not just did it once.Of course, silly, I was not born yesterday to not know how often it calls to the young & the restless. In fairness I was not a meany that night. Just told him point blank: "Women who fall out of love do not cry over lost virginity, you being her first does not mean that she can't move on with her life." (He may not be that great in bed, maybe that's why she wants space & wants to move on to wilder pastures)
He does not want to give up on her or rather not give up on her being his.He asked
me ; "What's wrong with me warning her about that man,he is going to make he a sex
machine, I care for her, I just want to talk to her again, she lied about her mom asking her to avoid me, why did she lie, what did I do wrong?" He added: "It will make me feel better if I can talk to her mom, about what happened between us. Do you think I should talk to her mom?" I told him again that you've done a lot already to show her you care & because of that your concern is misconstrued as a nuisance. I don't know why she lied to you, I cannot speak for her. Will it make a difference if you talk to her mom & let her know about your sexual misadventures I mean overtures?" 9How d hell does he know that he will use her as a sex machine, did he?) I can see that his mind is already made up. "I just want this chip off my shoulders, I will tell her all that's what happened to us & I will let go." Her mom likes me. She did not ask her to avoid me, I asked her mom personally. What if we get back together should I accept her?" Por Bida Hijo your so callous! I asked him a question in retort. Will you be willing to live with that fact that she lied to you? If she has already slept with this guy will you live with the memory of her being touched by another man? Will her mom liking you make her love you back? No response. I had to go in because by then my bladder was so full, so I made my grand exit by telling him that he has to go home, because it's getting late & that I will close shop soon. Politely told him to keep me posted on how he is every now & then.
Believe me his story, our conversation was longer than this. With the amount of
information I got from him & our memories of this young man I will be on my way to
making a telenovela, albeit not an original one but informative & eye opening for sure. I couldn't forget this encounter. It brought back all those things we knew about him & I can't help but wonder if he is not different from that guy he warned this girl about. Thought of the possible reasons why the girl gave him up, why when he is rich, dashing & he belongs to a respectable family; He is also one who indulges in drink, loves to party & he has not come close to his plans of being a mogul of riches since last he told us about it. It's sad to know that he is broken- hearted as Valentine's Day approaches. His Love story is one of those tragic sagas of love & life. One revelers during V-day would not like to hear. One thing is for sure he now belongs to the "Lonely Hearts & Empty Beds Club" come Valentine's. I would love to have to give him more insights but opted to keep my opinions to myself, because with him hurting that much even if he sought my advice I told him that the choice is still his. Once he makes up his mind he better not regret his actions, all he has to do is accept the consequences. Whoa! This is a lengthy entry. Till my next chikadventures.
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